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Berend: 5 Months

Well, I’m publishing this 2 weeks after B turned 5 months, but better late than never, right?

Age: 5 months on 15 October 2018
Weight: about 17 lbs
Height: about 27″
Teeth: none
Clothing Size: 6-9 months & 9 months
Diaper Size: size 3 in disposable and one size in cloth
Milestones: rolling from back to tummy intentionally, laughing, new sounds (fake coughing for one), sitting independently

Likes: Sucking on everything, watching the TV, trying to get Mama’s phone, being carried, being outside, standing with help, taking baths, watching Gerrit, crinkly toys, sleeping on his side.

Dislikes: Diaper changes at 1am, going to sleep, not getting attention all the time, waking up on his tummy, when toys don’t do what he wants

Sleeping: Not a good month for sleep. He averaged only 12.5 hours of sleep each day and mostly got 4 naps a day because they tended to be short. I think his longest stretch of sleep was maybe 3 hours? I can’t even remember.

Naps were mostly short ones (30-45 minutes), so he usually got 4 a day. All naps are in his crib with him wearing his Zippadee Zip, curtains closed, and white noise going. I almost always nurse him to sleep for naps because he usually won’t nurse well any other time of the day.

During the night, Berend was up all the time. He was generally up every hour, but sometimes as often as every 30 minutes (not including whole hours where I was in and out rocking him to sleep, laying him down, then going back 5 minutes later because he was up again). Exhausting. Frustrating. I usually gave up around 2 or 3am this month and just brought him to bed with me. He still would wake up crying, and I’d still have to get out of bed to walk him around to soothe him.

Eating: Still exclusively breastfeeding this month. Berend is still a quick nurser: 5 minutes or less when he’s awake and maybe 10 minutes if he falls asleep nursing. He also still nurses roughly every 2-2.5 hours day and night. He is still very easily distracted from nursing if I nurse around any other people, so he gets his best feedings before sleeps.

Mommy Update: I feel like the days are pretty long yet. But I feel like my attitude is generally better than it was when Gerrit was this age. I don’t get nearly as frustrated with the short naps and constant resettling all night. I feel like I’m always telling myself It is what it is. It won’t last forever. It helps more than I thought it would.

I’m definitely better when we get out of the house. I’m just not always motivated to actually do that. It seems like even if I tell myself that we’re going to leave right after Berend wakes from a nap, it still takes almost an hour to get out the door. Between Gerrit dragging his feet about getting dressed or using the bathroom and me trying to get Berend changed and ready, it all takes way too long.

Physically? I keep losing hair. My skin is better for the most part. I’ve gained a couple of pounds (oops). I’m always tired, but I somehow keep going along!

My “me time” was pretty limited this month. I really tried to take advantage of the stretches of sleep Berend had at night, even if they were only 30 minute ones. Sometimes I just spent that time catching up on folding laundry, but other times I actually sat and relaxed for awhile.

Memorable Events; It was a pretty quiet month to be honest. We had some small outings to the library on base and plenty of walks to the park. We went to our first block party on our street, which was fun, but I didn’t get a single picture! The only other “big” thing we did was visit the nearby alpaca farm.

That would be Berend chewing on his foot while he learned about alpacas!

Meanwhile, Gerrit had a great time petting and feeding the alpacas! It really was a fun afternoon out as a family.

 

October photo of Berend:

Berend, you are a mover and a shaker (as you can see in the photo ^)! You rarely sit still, and you insist on being up and part of the action, never laying back like a baby. In fact, it’s better if we just stand you up. You know what you want, when you want it, and you are very vocal when we can’t read your mind. You grunt and growl just like a little bear. You still have the most infectious smile, and we love making you giggle. We love you so much, Berend!

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The Boobie Connection

Mr. G has turned 11 months old. 11 months!! When did this happen??

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So first, I thought back to like 6 months ago. When I was anxious for Gerrit to get bigger, grow older, and be less of a helpless baby. And now I’m desperately clinging to this age. The closer we get to 1 year old, the closer we get to me getting a job and putting G in daycare. Nooooo! I’m not ready! I love this age: Gerrit is mobile (this is both good and bad haha), he has SO much personality, and he seems to be learning new things every day.

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Look at that chunk! (March 2015)

Six months ago, breastfeeding was somewhat stressful. It didn’t compare to the stress I felt when he was a newborn, but I still fretted over his eating habits. I felt like he didn’t nurse well during the day. He was on and off the breast, only nursing for 30 seconds or a minute at a time. It drove me nuts! He would finally take a proper feeding right before naps (which were also tough!). Then I worried that I was creating bad habits by letting him nurse to sleep. Ugh, I just didn’t know what to do!

Things slowly improved. Or I just accepted what we were working with. I accepted that Gerrit was going to nurse to sleep. I keep reading that it’s completely normal for kids to breastfeed to sleep, so I’ve just decided that I’m okay with it. Just recently, Gerrit has become actually interested in breastfeeding during the day! I have no idea why, but in the past couple of months or so, all I have to do is say, “Do you want your milk?” and I’m greeted with a big smile as he makes his way over to me. Then he launches himself at my chest so he can nurse. This is what I always wanted! I just didn’t expect it to happen at 9 months when I half expected G to start decreasing nursing sessions.

My photo for World Breastfeeding Week
My photo for World Breastfeeding Week

Breastfeeding has become one of my favorite things to do with Gerrit. Where it used to be a chore, it’s now a way for both of us to just sit and relax for a few minutes. I feel like we finally have that connection that I craved. When he was younger, I felt like Gerrit wouldn’t care if I nursed him or gave him a bottle. Now I feel like he needs the boobie connection as much as or more than he needs the actual milk. It’s an amazing feeling to be able to give so much to your child through your own body: nourishment, comfort, and a home base to come to anytime.

Gerrit is not a snuggly baby. The only time he slows down during the day is when he wants to have a book read to him or to nurse. Breastfeeding Gerrit means I get a cuddle here and there throughout his busy day! And we both enjoy nursing to sleep. It’s very relaxing for both of us, I think. We sit in the glider in his room and just rock back and forth until we he falls asleep. Don’t get me wrong: sometimes it’s not this easy! If he’s not ready to go to sleep, he’ll nurse until he’s satisfied, then he tries to climb all over me or get down to play. Then I put him in his crib and leave for awhile. He either falls asleep on his own (this doesn’t happen often) or he gets tired and starts crying (and then I nurse to sleep).

Gerrit has never been a good sleeper. I can count on one hand the number of times he has slept 6 or more hours in a stretch at night. After sleep started to improve this summer (June & July), it went downhill in August. His night wakings went from 1 or 2 up to 4, 5, or 6 in a night. It was rough. The only thing that helped? Breastfeeding him back to sleep. It was the only thing he wanted. I tried just rocking him back to sleep a few times, but he fussed until I gave him the boob. Like I said… sometimes he just needs the boobie connection!

I originally thought I would breastfeed for about a year. But I’ve read more and more that 1 year is a minimum for breastfeeding. The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding until age 2 or beyond. So now I’m hoping to make it to age 2! I don’t see Gerrit self-weaning anytime soon, so I’m pleased that we will be able to continue nursing, especially now that he is enjoying it so much. I know that it’s not culturally accepted to nurse past infancy in the USA, so I need to prepare myself for weird looks, questions, and maybe even some rude comments. We rarely nurse in public anymore, but I’m sure it will happen here and there.

I’m so happy that our breastfeeding journey has taken such a positive turn. I feel like Gerrit and I have a closer bond than we’ve ever had, and I love providing nourishment, comfort, and security through nursing. I’ll probably try to do another update around 18 months, unless something drastic changes between now and then. Wish us luck! 🙂

 

 

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5 Little Things

Since becoming a mom at the end of October, a lot of things have (obviously) changed. I think the biggest life change was breastfeeding. It is NOT as easy as I thought it would be! But once we got into the swing of things, I found little ways to make it easier.

1. Everything I wear is nursing friendly. I wear a nursing tank top pretty much every day, and since it’s still winter, I wear a cardigan over it. Yeah, it’s boring, but it makes getting dressed quick and easy in the morning. Or afternoon… whenever I get a chance to shower. 🙂
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Nursing tanks galore!

 

 

 
My favorite nursing tanks are from Target and Old Navy. Sometimes I’ll wear the ones from Target without a bra (around the house) because they still have good support. But the Old Navy ones are nice to just pull to the side without having to unclip anything.

2. I always have a beige hair tie on one of my wristse50822af827bb56eca2dea609b343297. I’ve read the recommendation to put a safety pin on the side of the bra you mean to nurse on next. Well, I don’t trust myself not to poke my boob with the pin, especially during the wee hours of the morning. So I just put a beige hair tie on my left wrist when I need to nurse on the left side next and vice versa.

 

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3. I sleep with burp cloths under my pillow. One on each side, actually, so there’s always one that’s easy to grab during night feedings. We end up co-sleeping for at least half the night, so I like having a burp cloth ready in case Gerrit decides to spit up while laying down.

 

 

4. I feel my boobs several times a day. Is that static1.squarespace.comweird? 🙂 This generally isn’t a good way to figure out how much milk your baby drinks, but I still do it. It gives me an idea of how much Gerrit consumed during the last feeding since I only feed from one side each time. He tends to be a very distracted eater during the day, so I don’t always know how much he actually eats. Since I overproduce, I like to know if I’m getting too full on one side.

 

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5. I don’t leave home without a nursing cover. The one in the photo is actually the one I have! I usually don’t care if I’m covered up while breastfeeding, but I feel like other people appreciate it. Plus sometimes it helps Gerrit fall asleep in louder or brighter locations when we’re out and about. Always a perk!

 

 

 

Of course, becoming a parent changes your WHOLE life, but it’s nice to have things to make aspects of it, like breastfeeding, a little easier. What little tips have you come up with to make breastfeeding simpler?