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Berend: 2 Months

I know I’m one of those people who doesn’t think the first month goes by very quickly with a new baby, but the second month does. I can’t believe our Little B is 2 months old already!

Age: 2 months on 15 July 2018
Weight: about 12.5 lbs (12 lbs 14 oz on 25 July)
Height: about 24″ long (24.21″ long on 25 July)
Teeth: none
Clothing Size: 3-6 months & 6 months 
Diaper Size:
close to size 2 in disposable and newborn in cloth
Milestones: He can roll from tummy to back, his head control has improved a lot, he give big open mouth smiles, and he “talks” to us!

Likes: Nursing, pooping, staring out windows and at high contrast patterns, smiling at his family, standing on our laps, baths

Staring at a pillow very intently

Dislikes: Waking up, having gas, being overtired, not being fed immediately, his car seat

Sleeping: Berend is still sleeping swaddled in a bassinet in our room (or in the living room during the day). He usually takes a couple of good naps (about 2 hours) and several catnaps during the day. At night, bedtime is usually 10pm at the latest and sometimes as early as 8:30. He is still up every 2-3 hours until around 5am. That’s when he starts working on gas/poop and is too restless to sleep. I usually lay him on the bed to bicycle his legs or jiggle him back to sleep in between toots. Once he gets all of that out of his system, he usually goes back to sleep for a couple of hours. In a 24 hour period, he’s averaging about 16 hours of sleep a day.

Eating: Berend seems to be eating well based on weight gain. He normally nurses a very short amount of time (5 minutes or less) during the day. I wish he would nurse for longer since he still is eating every 1.5-2 hours unless he’s napping. At night he tends to nurse for longer because he’s calmer and sleepy. He’s been cluster feeding a bit in the evenings, although not to the extent that Gerrit did!

Mommy Update: I’m doing much better this month! But I can definitely feel this sense of hopelessness when I first wake up in the morning after a rough night. Just goes to show how much sleep deprivation can affect you. Normally I feel like myself again though. I feel much calmer and more patient, which definitely helps me get through my days. Andrew has commented more than once that I seem much happier with Berend at this stage of infancy than I did when Gerrit was this age, so I think I’m bouncing back more quickly emotionally this time. I believe a good part of this comes from knowing how quickly it goes by this time around too.

One thing I feel like I should mention since people probably think it’s a bit taboo to talk about: gender disappointment. I wouldn’t even say disappointment in my case, I guess. I had a gut feeling that Berend was a boy throughout my pregnancy, but a big part of me hoped I was having a girl, knowing this was our last baby. While I’m thrilled to have another little boy, I did go through what I would consider a “mourning” period for the daughter I’ll never have. I had and still have a great relationship with my own mom, and I really wanted to experience that with a daughter of my own. But Andrew pointed out that I could still have a close relationship with my sons as well, and that’s so true. Once I came to terms with that, combined with my depression and anxiety symptoms decreasing, I started feeling more connected to Berend. I’m excited to see what kind of kid Berend becomes and what things we’ll bond over.

This month I also got a little braver. We went out to the 4th of July festival on base as a family, despite me having anxiety about Berend being fussy. I also went out to lunch with a friend with the boys (without Andrew), followed by a trip to Walmart by myself with the boys. Berend did better than I thought he would for all of those outings, minus the car rides. He is not a fan of the car seat!

I lost a few more pounds, so I’m just a little under my pre-pregnancy weight. I’m hoping to stay at this weight until I decide to start working on losing weight again later this year. I definitely haven’t been eating great, resorting to quick meals most of the time. I know I’ll feel better once I start cooking healthier meals again.

Memorable Events: Berend’s 2nd month was pretty low-key. It was very hot, so he and I really didn’t get outside very much. It was way too hot and humid for him to tolerate being in the Moby wrap. He did spend some time out on the blanket a few days though!

Probably not super exciting for Berend, but he started wearing cloth diapers every day this month! I had a hard time getting into it at first, because he was so small, and I felt like I didn’t know what I was doing. But as I started feeling less overwhelmed, I decided to get back into using cloth during the day.

Berend celebrated his first Father’s Day with Andrew! He didn’t give Dada anything this year (besides his presence haha) but Gerrit made him a cute card.

Happy Father’s Day!

Another first holiday for Berend was 4th of July! We didn’t do anything on the 4th because it was very hot, and we weren’t going to stay out late enough for fireworks anyway. But I still took the opportunity to dress my boys in coordinating outfits!

Gerrit wasn’t ready, but Berend is smiling!
Made in the USA!

He also went to his first festival: Liberty Fest, the 4th of July event Little Rock AFB put on the weekend after Independence Day. He slept through the entire thing, but Gerrit had a lot of fun!

And Berend’s July photo of the month:

And a cute brother picture, because Gerrit insisted:

We love seeing Berend being more aware, especially when he gives us those big open-mouth smiles! We can’t wait to see his personality continue to develop next month. We love you, little bear!

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Gerrit: 8 Months

Wow, this month seemed to fly by! I felt like we had just done Gerrit’s 7 month photos, and here we are doing the 8 month ones.

20150627_104722Age: 8 months on 27 June 2015
Weight: 21.2 lbs
Height: 28.25 inches (a rough guess… he was very wiggly while I tried to measure him!)
Teeth: 1 — it started coming through right before he turned 8 months
Clothing Size: 12 months
Diaper Size: size 3
Milestones: actually sleeping through the night (9+ hours!), sleeping in the crib all night, creeping, standing with less support, saying “Mama”

Sleeping: First of all, yes, Gerrit slept through the night!! Once. One single night. But I took it as a very good sign! I was not expecting him to keep doing it, since that just isn’t the way Gerrit works, haha.

I started playing around with his naps this month. I wasn’t sure if he was ready to transition down to 2 naps, because he usually fought me hard on that last nap of the day. He mostly took 3 naps during this month, although there were some days of only 2 naps. It usually depended on how early he had woken up that morning (5:15 was our earliest morning) and how long his naps were that day. Gerrit & I still usually napped together for the first nap of the day, since I was still needing the extra zzz’s! Naps ranged from piddly little cat naps (half an hour to 45 minutes) to fantastic 2 hour naps (usually with me). His worst day of naps was a 1-hour morning nap and a 45-minute afternoon nap. Seriously… how was he functioning on that little sleep?! He slept great that night though, which is why I considered dropping the 3rd nap. Other days with only 2 naps resulted in frequent night-waking though. As did days with 3 naps. I’m telling you, this kid is not consistent!

At night, Gerrit’s sleep ranged from no night wakings (can I get a hallelujah?!) to 5 night wakings (shoot me now), although 3-4 was the norm. His nights with only 1 waking were the nights he slept 6+ hours during the first stretch, 7+ hours in a stretch, and then the night of 9.5 hours of sleeping bliss. That amazing night was June 17, and I keep waiting for a repeat of that night. 🙂 It was about a week after that that Gerrit was probably teething, so I shouldn’t be surprised that he was a bit more restless.

The first few days of his 8th month, I was still bringing Gerrit to bed with me between 4 & 5 in the morning, because he refused to go back to sleep in the crib at that point. But then he started doing better with going back to sleep in his crib, and it continued almost every night! It was really weird for Andrew and me at first, haha. We woke up and the sun was up, but there was no baby in the bed. Crazy! I’ll admit, I kind of missed it at first, but I think that’s why I continued napping with Gerrit for that first nap of the day: I needed that snuggle time with him.

Eating: Breastfeeding is going well. I feel like since he turned 6 months, breastfeeding has been a fairly low-stress activity. Gerrit eats well, takes solid feedings before sleeping, and has gotten really good at latching back on quickly if he comes off and realizes he’s being sprayed in the face with milk. 🙂 He also started handling my boobs more. What I mean by that is, he would position them like a baby with a bottle might. It just seemed like he was gaining more control with his hands and fingers this month.

Just as a side note, I now know why moms enjoy breastfeeding so much. When a child nurses well, drains a breast, and stays latched on, breastfeeding is wonderful! I had no idea what that was like until the past couple of months. I was seriously dreaming about the day Gerrit would be done nursing, because it was a chore for both of us. But if things continue like this, I’ll be happy to breastfeed past 12 months if he wants to.

Gerrit + solids = play time. I felt like the finger foods I was giving him were just being used as teething toys for the most part. Occasionally, I would find bits of food in his diaper, so I knew he was eating something but you could see he was still primarily breastfed. Which isn’t bad, of course, I just figured that by now I’d be seeing more solids in there.

Eating sweet potato fries
Eating sweet potato fries

So I started offering purees and rice cereal mixed with fruit puree. No luck there either. He would make a face and spit it out. Every time. I had a little success getting purees into him if I let him use the spoon, but that spoon usually got flung at the wall or on the floor at some point, so that got pretty messy.

I’m trying not to get discouraged or worry about it, but it does disappoint me a little. I just thought he would get the hang of things more quickly than he is. He genuinely seems to enjoy the finger food though. Nothing seems to taste bad to him, and he likes to mash things around in his mouth, but most of it just comes back out again. We will get there though!

Mommy Update: I’m doing well! Still at about the same weight, but I have no interest in trying to lose any weight while breastfeeding. I have a great supply right now, and I don’t want to mess with that while Gerrit is still almost entirely consuming breast milk.

(Did I seriously not get a picture of the two of us this month?!) 😦

Best Moments: I think one of the best moments was hearing Gerrit say, “Mama.” At first, I was sure it was just babbling, because he would just repeat the “ma” sound all the time: “mamamama.” But he smiles when I say “Mama” back to him, and he’s more likely to say it when he’s upset and actually wants me.

Another best moment was that night that he slept through the night! Seriously, it feels so good to sleep like that after getting used to sleeping in 2-3 hours increments all the time.

Likes & Dislikes: Gerrit still likes standing & walking with help. Sometimes it seems like that’s all he wants to do! He’s often trying to crawl on top of me to stand on my lap, and he will fuss and whine if I don’t help him out.

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Gerrit likes practicing his crawling to some extent. He will get up on all 4s and rock back and forth, then drop down on his belly and try to move. He gets frustrated fairly quickly though.

20150529_142738He still really enjoys sensory activities, especially anything to do with water! He splashes around in the bath and makes quite a mess, haha!

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I also introduced “sand play” with Gerrit:

20150604_171900It’s just white cornmeal, not actual sand. I’m glad I did cornmeal, because one of the first things he did was grab a handful and put it in his mouth! It’s messy though (the powder gets everywhere), so we usually do this outside.

Here is a sensory box I made for him:

20150615_162742It has a different texture on each side. His favorite side is definitely the one with bubble wrap!

Gerrit still dislikes being left alone for any extended period of time. But he is getting better at playing by himself:

20150622_111849He also dislikes when you don’t help him walk around when he wants to! I’ve tried letting him try out his walking toy, but he doesn’t have the balance for that yet. So I’m usually either stuck with sore knees or a sore back from helping him walk around the house.

Memorable Events: June was pretty low-key for the most part. Andrew celebrated his first Father’s Day though! Gerrit and I made a picture for him and framed it:

20150622_181818I also got another shirt set like I did for Mother’s Day:

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Other than that, I just made a special brunch for the three of us. I made honey-ricotta pancakes with blackberries and oranges. I let Gerrit have some, but left out the honey-ricotta topping. I didn’t take any photos of our brunch, but here is the recipe I used if you want to try it! We thought it was delicious!

This is not actually a memorable event, but this IS one of my favorite outfits on him:

Handsome guy!
Handsome guy!

I think the worst part about baby clothes is that they grow out of the cute ones so quickly! Gerrit is definitely getting more wear out of his clothes now that he isn’t packing on the pounds so fast, but it still seems like I am packing up a too-small size too often.

 

So that was Gerrit’s 8th month! Like I said, it really seemed to fly by, and part of the reason is probably because Gerrit is so much more fun to play with now. As we head into month #9, we will be baby-proofing things, I’m sure!

Happy 8 months, Gerrit!
Happy 8 months, Gerrit!