Daily living

Berend: 18 Months

As you will see, I thought I was bad getting this published a year late… and here we are just before Berend’s 3rd birthday with me catching up on all of these old drafts!

Oh Berend, I’m so sorry this is getting published more than a YEAR late… thankfully most of it was already written, because there’s no way I’d remember it all at this point. 

Age: 18 months on 15 November 2019
Weight: 24 lbs 11 oz
Height: 33.5 inches
Teeth: 16
Clothing Size: 18 months and 18-24 months
Diaper Size: size 4 and one size in cloth

Milestones: saying more words, knows all common body parts, shakes head no & nods yes (plus says “no” ALL the time), can throw & catch a ball, shows affection & empathy (gives hugs or pats back if he thinks you’re sad), scribbles with crayons & markers, connection to a lovey (Bear)

Berend has started saying a few 2-syllable non-repetitive words (“bubble” vs “Mama”). He’s not putting words together yet, but he definitely gets his points across.

Likes: balls (especially throwing), being outside (playing in the dirt, playing in the snow, getting pushed on his tricycle), helping around the house (unloading the dishwasher, putting dirty clothes away, wiping up spills), baths, nursing

Dislikes: not getting his way, diaper changes, car rides, not being held, having his teeth brushed

Sleep: Berend’s one nap a day ranges from 45 minutes to 2 hours long. It’s not often that it’s a 2 hour nap though. Sometimes, if it’s a short nap, I can get him back to sleep, but if the nap has been over an hour, that probably won’t happen.

In terms of night sleep? More of the same. Berend is generally up every 2 hours or less throughout the night. I bring him to bed with me around 2am most nights. He usually goes to bed around 8:30 and is up for the day by 7:30. I continue to try to catch up on sleep on weekends or mornings Andrew is home.

Eating: Berend continues to nurse around the clock. I feel like even if he is eating well that day, he still wants to nurse all the time! I don’t feel like he drinks much though, so I feel like he nurses when he’s thirsty, bored, or sleepy.

Berend is not a big eater. I mean, if it’s something he likes, he’s more likely to eat a fair amount of it.

 

 

Curse of the second child, Berend… Mama was just too busy to blog. I know that from 14-16 months, Dada was gone on his first deployment, and I was definitely feeling overwhelmed. Right after he got home, Gramps & Gram came to visit and we went to Carlsbad Caverns with them. And then we had Gerrit’s 5th birthday, you turned 18 months, and the stress and busy-ness of the holidays began!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Baby Update · Daily living · Travel

Berend: 15 Months

*This update will be short and sweet, because it’s VERY late. Andrew was deployed when Berend turned 15 months, and B was not sleeping great, so I had very little free time to work on things like blog updates.*

Hitting 12 months is a huge milestone in our house. We apparently only produce high needs boys, so the first year is a lot of work! But those months after the first birthday? Amazing! Don’t get me wrong… Berend is still very needy, clingy, and easily set off. But the start of communication, learning to walk, and all the curiosity is just so much fun. I love this stage SO much!

Age: 15 months on 15 August 2019
Weight: 24 lbs 5 oz
Height: 32.99 inches
Teeth: 14
Clothing Size: 18 months and 18-24 months
Diaper Size: size 4 and one size in cloth

Milestones: walking!!, putting things together (Easter eggs, caps on bottles, etc), throwing things, trying to comb his own hair, using utensils at the table, regularly signing “more,” “please,” and “all done” without much prompting

Likes: balls (throwing them, rolling them, kicking them), birds (and animals in general), being outside, walks in the stroller (finally!), playing at the park, playing at the play kitchen, baths, water play, digging in the dirt


Dislikes: car rides, having his diaper changed, having his teeth brushed, Mama walking away from him (even just to go to the bathroom or blow my nose)

Sleep: No major improvements with sleep. Berend dropped to one nap at 13 months, even though he probably wasn’t really ready. When we did our Midwest Road Trip 2019, he had several days where he dozed off in the morning with me, so I knew he still really needed 2 naps… but the fight wasn’t worth it. So we stuck it out with one nap.

Night sleep wasn’t great. I don’t track Berend’s sleep nearly as rigorously as I tracked Gerrit’s, so I can’t tell you any precise details, but by 15 months, Berend was nowhere near sleeping through the night. Waking every 2ish hours was very normal. I’m going to go out on a limb and blame some of the rough nights on teething, since Berend got EIGHT new teeth between his first birthday and 15 months.

Eating: Meh, food was hit or miss from 12-15 months. Breakfast was usually small: strawberries or blueberries with cereal (Cheerios or oatmeal squares) although he occasionally enjoyed pancakes or scrambled eggs. Berend usually just nibbled lunch. Dinner was usually fairly successful. Berend is not a big fan of meat, unlike his brother. He will chew meat, but he usually spits it back out. He likes roasted veggies (mostly carrots), most fruits, cheese, and pasta/rice. And he definitely has a sweet tooth. He always wants Gerrit’s fruit snacks, vanilla cupcake Goldfish, and cookies/candy.

Berend is still nursing all the time. On his picky days, I assume he’s nursing for food/drink, but a lot of the time, I think it’s mostly comfort. Especially at night.

Photo by Dogwood Darling

Mommy Update: Well, when Berend turned 15 months old, we were just a few weeks into our first deployment. So I was tired, frazzled, and just generally stretched thin. But we also had a lot of family time leading up to the deployment, and that was wonderful.

Memorable Events:  Toward the end of June, we started our road trip north to visit family & friends in the Midwest. We didn’t rush it, since both boys are high energy, and Berend hates car rides. We did not stop at fast food restaurants… sit-down meals were the way to go! And LOTS of stops at parks and playgrounds. Even though it takes longer, it’s a lot more enjoyable to take our sweet time, and the boys love it.

Our first stop was in the Madison, WI area, where we met up with a couple of friends from college. It was a pretty quick stop, and we were off to Shawano, WI to stay at Andrew’s grandparents’ cottage at the lake. Both of Andrew’s grandparents have passed away, but the family still owns the cottage, and it was important to us to bring the boys there.

After a couple of days at the cottage, we headed to my sister’s house. As well as lots of time playing with cousins and catching up with some friends from high school, we went out for conuts with Mimi & Papa! We also just walked around Two Rivers.

After that we took the car ferry over to Michigan for a few days! We got to visit with my grandmas, and the boys LOVED their time by the water.

On our way back to New Mexico, we stopped at Meramec Caverns in Missouri!

After we got back to New Mexico, we basically just tried to have a lot of family time before Andrew deployed. His parents came out to spend some time with us too. After he left, we basically went to every base event we could! The boys had their first Ferris wheel ride at Cannon Appreciation Day: 

We had kind of a whirlwind summer, but it was really fun seeing Berend make that transition from baby to toddler. He got to meet LOTS of family and friends of his parents, he did his first big road trip, and he really started to show his personality!

Berend, happy 15 months! We love you to bits, and you are the perfect blend of sweet and sassy. You can ALWAYS make us smile, and we all love you so much.

 

Baby Update · Daily living · Photography

Berend’s One Year Photos

We had family photos plus Berend’s cake smash the weekend before his birthday. He really wasn’t really in the mood to smile, but we still got some cute photos!

I seriously can’t get over how cute these boys can be.

No smiles from this one, but he’s still as cute as can be!

Berend really didn’t want to sit alone on that picnic blanket, so Mama snuggles were in order.

Pretty proud to dump the whole cake that I made for him!

It took him forever to actually taste the cake!

All photos by Elizabeth McDowell Photography — she did an amazing job with my crazy boys who can be uncooperative! I’m always impressed by what she can capture in a short amount of time, and she’s so easy to work with.

I still can’t believe our Berend is a year old. It was a tough year, but it was also full of smiles and giggles. I’m so glad we have these photos to celebrate his first year with us!