You know when you first have a baby, and they’re crying all the time? You have thoughts like, “I just need to make it through this hour/day/week/month.” And then you’re writing your baby’s 11 month update thinking, “How are we only a month away from your first birthday?!”
Age: 11 months on 15 April 2019 Weight: about 22 lbs Height: about 30.25 inches Teeth: 6 Clothing Size: 12-18 months & 18 months Diaper Size: size 3 in disposable (this box is lasting forever) and one size in cloth
Milestones: saying “z” sound, saying “tuh” sound, crawling on hands and knees more regularly, responding to “no,” signing “milk” (maybe?)
Likes: playing with Gerrit, baths, meals, Mama (bordering on obsession), tickles, going outside, rummaging in the refrigerator, finding tiny things to put in his mouth, unraveling the toilet paper roll, mouth sounds (blowing raspberries, spitting, clicking his tongue, smacking his lips… and don’t forget his trademark growling!), dropping & picking up toys, being walked around, climbing on top of baskets/boxes/toys, eating shoes, climbing up and down the stairs like a pro, snuggling with Mama in the wee hours
photo by Gram Kiel
Dislikes: long car rides, diaper changes, clothes changes, Mama walking away, being confined (in the car seat, in the stroller, in the shopping cart), getting his face washed
Sleep: Berend is still getting about 12.5 hours of sleep a day including 2 naps. His morning nap is usually around 10 or 10:30am and is almost always on the short side (40-45 min). His afternoon nap is all over: anywhere between 1:30 & 3pm, sometimes short, sometimes longer. He’s in a much better mood when he gets a decent afternoon nap though!
Night sleep is about the same as it has been. Berend goes to bed between 7:30 & 8:30 (9 if he had a late nap), is up every 1-2 hours (3 hours is a treat), and wakes for the day between 7 & 8. I bring him to bed with me around 3 or 4am most nights. Sometime he’s restless in bed with me (crying out, moving around a lot), but other times he just snuggles right in. I love waking up and watching him sleep.
Eating: At the start of this month, I felt like Berend had days of not being very interested in nursing or eating. But by the end of the month he was nursing a lot! He still seemed off of solids though. I think he has been eating more than I thought, but he’s also been dropping a LOT on the floor. Especially broccoli. I feel like he may be teething, but nothing has popped through yet.
Although when we went out for sushi with Andrew’s parents? Great eater, of course.
Mommy Update: Shortly after Berend turned 10 months, Andrew’s parents arrived for a visit! It was basically just for Andrew and me to get a break… and a date. It gets hard to not have family to help out, and we were thankful Andrew’s parents wanted to visit.
It was nice for me to get to sleep in for a couple of weeks, Andrew got to do some projects he’d been wanting to get to, and we even got out for a lunch date and errands!
I also celebrated my 34th birthday this month! Nothing much planned to celebrate… I made one of my favorite meals for dinner, made a strawberry lemon sheet cake, and got some sweet gifts from my guys.
Opening my gift from Gerrit: a story about potatoes and dinosaursOpening my necklace from Andrew: a bear for Berend
Memorable Events: Berend’s 1st St. Patrick’s Day… even though we didn’t do anything other than dress in green haha.
While Andrew’s parents were visiting, Berend had his first trip to the zoo! There’s a small zoo here in Clovis, and it was pretty much the perfect size for us to get through at this point.
Berend tried some raw sushi for the first time!
Here’s Berend’s first time riding in the “fun cart” with Gerrit:
And here is Berend’s April photo:
Berend, oh child, you are a handful! I feel like the closer you get to walking, the closer you get to me. You have been very attached to me all day long. You don’t even want to sit in a shopping cart! It’s my arms (or Dada’s) or nothing. You still love playing with Gerrit, but you two have been butting heads a bit more. You’re getting speedy cruising around furniture, and you end up getting into your brother’s things. And Gerrit likes to “help” by taking things away from you that you shouldn’t have. Tears on both sides… but you still adore each other. Sometimes when we’re eating dinner, I look at you and can’t even imagine you not being in this family. Good days or rough ones… we love you, and we’re so glad you completed our family, little bear. I can’t believe we’re planning your FIRST birthday already!!
Mr. G has turned 11 months old. 11 months!! When did this happen??
So first, I thought back to like 6 months ago. When I was anxious for Gerrit to get bigger, grow older, and be less of a helpless baby. And now I’m desperately clinging to this age. The closer we get to 1 year old, the closer we get to me getting a job and putting G in daycare. Nooooo! I’m not ready! I love this age: Gerrit is mobile (this is both good and bad haha), he has SO much personality, and he seems to be learning new things every day.
Look at that chunk! (March 2015)
Six months ago, breastfeeding was somewhat stressful. It didn’t compare to the stress I felt when he was a newborn, but I still fretted over his eating habits. I felt like he didn’t nurse well during the day. He was on and off the breast, only nursing for 30 seconds or a minute at a time. It drove me nuts! He would finally take a proper feeding right before naps (which were also tough!). Then I worried that I was creating bad habits by letting him nurse to sleep. Ugh, I just didn’t know what to do!
Things slowly improved. Or I just accepted what we were working with. I accepted that Gerrit was going to nurse to sleep. I keep reading that it’s completely normal for kids to breastfeed to sleep, so I’ve just decided that I’m okay with it. Just recently, Gerrit has become actually interested in breastfeeding during the day! I have no idea why, but in the past couple of months or so, all I have to do is say, “Do you want your milk?” and I’m greeted with a big smile as he makes his way over to me. Then he launches himself at my chest so he can nurse. This is what I always wanted! I just didn’t expect it to happen at 9 months when I half expected G to start decreasing nursing sessions.
My photo for World Breastfeeding Week
Breastfeeding has become one of my favorite things to do with Gerrit. Where it used to be a chore, it’s now a way for both of us to just sit and relax for a few minutes. I feel like we finally have that connection that I craved. When he was younger, I felt like Gerrit wouldn’t care if I nursed him or gave him a bottle. Now I feel like he needs the boobie connection as much as or more than he needs the actual milk. It’s an amazing feeling to be able to give so much to your child through your own body: nourishment, comfort, and a home base to come to anytime.
Gerrit is not a snuggly baby. The only time he slows down during the day is when he wants to have a book read to him or to nurse. Breastfeeding Gerrit means I get a cuddle here and there throughout his busy day! And we both enjoy nursing to sleep. It’s very relaxing for both of us, I think. We sit in the glider in his room and just rock back and forth until we he falls asleep. Don’t get me wrong: sometimes it’s not this easy! If he’s not ready to go to sleep, he’ll nurse until he’s satisfied, then he tries to climb all over me or get down to play. Then I put him in his crib and leave for awhile. He either falls asleep on his own (this doesn’t happen often) or he gets tired and starts crying (and then I nurse to sleep).
Gerrit has never been a good sleeper. I can count on one hand the number of times he has slept 6 or more hours in a stretch at night. After sleep started to improve this summer (June & July), it went downhill in August. His night wakings went from 1 or 2 up to 4, 5, or 6 in a night. It was rough. The only thing that helped? Breastfeeding him back to sleep. It was the only thing he wanted. I tried just rocking him back to sleep a few times, but he fussed until I gave him the boob. Like I said… sometimes he just needs the boobie connection!
I originally thought I would breastfeed for about a year. But I’ve read more and more that 1 year is a minimum for breastfeeding. The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding until age 2 or beyond. So now I’m hoping to make it to age 2! I don’t see Gerrit self-weaning anytime soon, so I’m pleased that we will be able to continue nursing, especially now that he is enjoying it so much. I know that it’s not culturally accepted to nurse past infancy in the USA, so I need to prepare myself for weird looks, questions, and maybe even some rude comments. We rarely nurse in public anymore, but I’m sure it will happen here and there.
I’m so happy that our breastfeeding journey has taken such a positive turn. I feel like Gerrit and I have a closer bond than we’ve ever had, and I love providing nourishment, comfort, and security through nursing. I’ll probably try to do another update around 18 months, unless something drastic changes between now and then. Wish us luck! 🙂
Ahhh, 1 month until my baby is a year old! I am in full blown first-birthday-party planning mode, although I’m trying not to go overboard with it. Social media sets the bar high with birthday parties, but I’m determined not to go crazy!
Age: 11 months on 27 September 2015 Weight: 23 lbs Height: 30 inches Teeth: 4 Clothing Size: 12 months & 12-18 months Diaper Size: size 3 Milestones: cruising, climbing stairs, taking steps, waving, pointing, handing us items, shaking his head “no,” a lot more babbling, saying “Dada” and “dat” (that), vocal volume (whispering and yelling)
Sleeping: I’m getting really used to broken sleep at night. We’ve had some pretty rough nights this month again. We were dealing with yet another Mental Leap (Wonder Week #7 – The World of Sequences), which really hurt Gerrit’s sleep. Sometimes it seems to affect him more at night (we’ve had up to 8… yes, EIGHT night wakings), while other times it really kills his naps. He had days of 30-45 minute naps (normal naps are 90 minutes to 2 hours) as well as a few days where he totally boycotted nap time and skipped one completely. Those were fun days.
Unfortunately, most of Gerrit’s nights had 5 or more night wakings. I’ve tried just rocking him back to sleep, but he gets really mad if I don’t offer the boob. And I’m not in the mood to argue about it at 2 in the morning, so boob it is. Despite all the wakings, he still managed to get between 10 & 11 hours of sleep most nights, which isn’t terrible. I’d really like him to get 11 hours a night, but you can’t force a baby to sleep. Or if you can, I haven’t figured out how!
Gerrit had 3 days this month where he only got 1 nap in. It really pissed me off when those days happened. I take it personally when I can’t get him to nap for some reason. But I used to feel the same way when I couldn’t get a kid to nap at the CDC I worked at too. I saw it as a failure on my part if a nap was short or if it got skipped completely. Why do I feel that way?? Like I said above, you can’t force a baby to sleep. Most days, his nap hours totaled between 2 and 3 hours, which is good. Apparently, babies this age should be sleeping at least an hour per nap, so Gerrit is pretty much on track.
I feel like Gerrit does pretty well with making up sleep when he doesn’t sleep well. For example, if he doesn’t get a lot of sleep at night, he tends to sleep better for naps. And if he gets crappy naps, he tends to sleep in the next morning for me, which feels awesome. I have read that babies often sleep really poorly when they are learning to stand and walk. So I hope that when he conquers that milestone, he will sleep better! I just have to keep hoping for improvement.
Eating: My son has been obsessed with my boobs this month. I mean, Gerrit wants to nurse all the time! I feel like he often just wants to comfort nurse and get some cuddles, which is totally fine. It’s when he wants to comfort nurse while standing or climbing that doesn’t work so well. I’m thankful he isn’t too bad with his teeth with all the moving around he does. Crazy baby.
Mr. Pancake Head
In terms of solids, Gerrit was really hit or miss with meals this month. Sometimes he did pretty well, other times I felt like he just played around and made up for it nursing later on. I’m really trying not to worry about it, since I’m told “food before 1 is just for fun,” but he is quickly approaching his first birthday. I don’t expect his eating patterns to change overnight, so I am a little concerned. He’s still gaining weight, but I wonder how much of that is from breast milk and how much is from solid food.
Mommy Update: I’m hanging in there, haha. The broken sleep has become normal to me again, and I don’t like that. I’ve needed a nap nearly every morning when Gerrit naps to try to make up some lost sleep. I really want to start getting away from the daily naps since I need to start the job hunt. I don’t want to start a job with my body being used to getting a daily siesta at 9:30 in the morning!
Labor Day on the coast
Despite dealing with another Wonder Week, Gerrit has not been terrible mood-wise. I feel like a lot of the “neediness” he normally displays is coming through with the constant nursing and wanting to be held. It’s easy for me to get him to smile and giggle, and he loves playing and interacting with me. When he is a little moody, he really just wants Momma. I feel bad for Andrew when he’s like this, but I don’t know what I can really do about it.
I have been tackling some cleaning and organizing of my craft things, which is something I get done during Gerrit’s afternoon nap. I usually put on some HGTV and get to work (except today… I’m blogging instead haha). This alone time is really good for me. I don’t love cleaning, but I love having some time to myself. So important for me!
Best Moments: I feel like Gerrit has learned a LOT of new things this month! It’s been so fun seeing him master new skills, especially the physical ones. He has come a long way with balance while standing this month. With better balance, he’s also gotten more confident with standing and taking steps. He technically started taking some steps last month, but it was more “moving his feet while falling” haha. I went back and added it to his milestones from last month, but it has really improved in September. Andrew has estimated that he can walk 6-8 feet by himself when he’s focused. We are so proud of him! Practicing walking has been a fun activity for the three of us to do. When Andrew gets home from work, Gerrit can walk between the two of us with lots of cheering and someone to catch him when he loses his balance. Plus I hope it tires him out for bedtime! 😉
I also have loved watching Gerrit’s new facial expressions and hearing his new sounds. I have come to realize that I am always asking him, “What’s that?” both in the house and out and about. I thought he was starting to say “dada,” but instead I think he has been saying “dat” (that) when looking at things outside and around the house. Sometimes he whispers, “Dat” while pointing at something. It’s so cute! Happily, he has also been saying “dada,” although we’re not sure if he really pairs it with Andrew yet. When I ask him, “Where’s Dada?” he looks for Andrew though, so I think he understands the connection to some extent.
Gerrit has definitely been trying to copy more of our facial expressions, and it cracks me up! I’m aware that I make a lot of exaggerated expressions when I interact with him, so I don’t know if that’s why he has recently been making more funny faces or what. He has also acquired some vocal volume! I already mentioned that he whispers “dat” fairly often, but he has also learned how to shout and screech too. We had one dinner where he was yelling happily about something! Andrew and I were pretty amused, although we have no idea what he was telling us.
Likes & Dislikes: Gerrit still loves moving! He no longer army crawls at all; he’s on all fours anytime he’s not standing or trying to walk. And he’s speedy! I suspect that once he gets this walking thing figured out, he will not be walking… he’ll be running everywhere!
Happily walking to Momma!
Gerrit still really likes his books. He likes to read one over and over before moving on to another one. Once I say, “The end!” and put it on the floor, he picks it up and hands it back to me. He still loves his lift-the-flap books, and I continue to tape them when he rips another flap out. One of these days he’ll learn what “gentle” means, right??
My little bookworm
He also has shown more interest in that caterpillar toy in the picture above. He’s had it since Christmas, but just recently started playing with it. He also likes this caterpillar toy and reading “The Very Hungry Caterpillar.” Not sure if there’s a theme here or just a coincidence, but I’m always glad when he starts playing with new toys!
Gerrit has started showing interest in his stuffed animals. He really doesn’t have many since he didn’t care much about them in the past, but he likes to give them hugs and kisses, which is adorable. He’s also become very attached to Lamby, the little lamb that Andrew bought for him when I was early in my pregnancy.
He likes to suck & chew on Lamby’s ears and tail. It’s cute but kind of gross. Lamby takes frequent baths in the washing machine, pretty much anytime he starts smelling funky. I’ve also purchased Lamby 2.0 if/when it’s necessary to replace the original or at least give the original Lamby a little break.
Speaking of Lamby, Gerrit also really likes to throw everything out of his crib at nap time. If he doesn’t go to sleep right away, all of his stuffed animals and blankets end up tossed out onto the floor. And if I take my time getting him up from a nap, I also end up having to pick up all of the contents of his crib. He likes to drop his cup onto the floor at meals too, so I guess gravity is just fascinating for a 10 month old!
Gerrit is really enjoying playing on his own a lot more, which is wonderful for me. He will play with his puzzle pieces, plastic plates and bowls and measuring cups, his magnet blocks (a new favorite… anyone need an idea for a birthday gift? wink wink), and books. He loves dragging around plastic spoons and chewing on them too. Unfortunately, when he’s playing alone, the only thing I can really do is go on my phone. I tried working on my weekly menu & grocery list, and he was way too curious to let me get away with that! So that’s the goal: Gerrit playing independently while I do something productive!
Some of Gerrit’s dislikes? Getting his diaper changed. Well, really just putting a clean diaper on. As soon as his diaper is off, he rolls and scrambles away, usually to go stand and look out the window with a bare tush. He also is such a wiggle worm when I DO get a hold of him again. Along the same lines, Gerrit is a handful when getting his pajamas on. I certainly work up a sweat getting him ready for bed!
Gerrit still dislikes it when I do anything without him. Cooking dinner is the big one. I’m thankful Andrew is usually there to distract and play with him, but Gerrit still frequently gets underfoot while I’m cooking. I’ve tried putting him in the Ergo on my back, and he wasn’t pleased with it. I tried putting him on my hip in the Ergo, but I didn’t get it figured out before Gerrit got sick of being jostled around. So that’s on my to-do list. I would really like to figure out a way to cook while holding or wearing Gerrit.
The only other thing I can think of that he really dislikes is getting his face washed after meals. He’s getting better about it, but for awhile he got really upset with me when I wiped his mouth.
Memorable Events: Shortly after Gerrit turned 10 months old, we were invited to join our friends at their family’s beach house on the coast for Labor Day weekend. It was hot and humid, which meant we had to battle the mosquitoes, so Gerrit and I didn’t spend a lot of time outside. We still had fun though! I know Andrew had a good time: he got to try his hand at clamming and went for a few kayak rides.
Gerrit enjoyed playing with his friends Nathan and Audrey inside. Nathan is 2-1/2, so he is just fascinating to Gerrit! And Audrey is 6 months younger than Gerrit, so he is intrigued by her, but seems confused by why she won’t play with him haha.
Andrew even took Gerrit for his first kayak ride! Apparently Gerrit really enjoyed it — he loved checking everything out!
After this kayak ride, Andrew and I took Gerrit swimming in salt water for the first time. He loved it! He is such a water baby. I think the salt water probably surprised him a bit, but he really enjoyed splashing around with us.
Another fun event was checking out the children’s museum in Raleigh. It’s a little above Gerrit’s level right now, but he absolutely loves exploring new areas and seeing other babies and children. I can’t wait to take him again!
Checking out the mirror wall at MarblesLooking at the fish!Checking out the garden with Daddy
Marbles, the museum, was so cute. It’s really geared toward preschool and elementary school aged kids, but I was happy they had an infant area for Gerrit to explore. We let Gerrit check out a few other areas, but it will be easier once he’s walking and not sticking absolutely everything in his mouth!
So that was Month #11! Sleep was crappy, but the wake time hours were great! I just love our little guy so much. He brings us so much joy and makes us smile every day. It’s amazing watching Gerrit learn new things and gain confidence with his new skills. I’m so thankful for another month of being at home with him to see things from his perspective and share all of his memories.
On the move!Wait, I’m 11 months today?!Not big on smiling for the camera… but he’s still cute!
Happy 11 months, my sweet Gerrit! I can’t believe how big you are and how close to your birthday we are getting. We love you so much!